Is he teaching me to be lighthearted and playful, or did he forget he was holding me and is about to drop me? There’s no way to know. Ever.
Last year I decided May 29th would be unofficial “Hug a Geek” Day. Why? Well, that’s when I married Mr. Geek! 3 years ago today we said “I Do” (with a secret “So Say We All” hidden into the vows), and on our anniversary I like to reminisce a bit on relationships with geeks. Two years ago I talked about geek love (and why it’s so great). Last year I talked about how common geek attributes translate into a relationship. This year? I want to chat about the way your relationships change you (hopefully for the better!).
As I’ve mentioned before, Mr. Geek is responsible for a lot of my geekiness. Before him I had never played D&D, never played European board games, and probably wouldn’t have set foot into PAX. But there’s so much more. He is more outgoing than I am, more adventurous, and more creative. He encourages me to travel, try new things, get out of the house, spend time with friends, and achieve my various goals. I joke that I’d be a mean ol’ recluse if it weren’t for him, but I think there’s some truth in that. Without someone to remind me to have fun, I would work non-stop. And even when he’s not specifically telling me to do something, he’s still inspiring me. His sense of humor makes me step up my game. (I still get really proud when I can make him laugh!) His intelligence makes me want to learn more. And his outlook on life wants me to match his positivity and drive.
So today, go hug the geeks in your life, whether they’re your partner, family member, or friend. Let them know that you’re a better person because of them, and tell them why. (Or better yet, give them a shout-out in the comments!)
If you’re planning a geeky or fandom-centric wedding, then you’ve gotta check out these printable invites. Paperling has created four new sets of invitations based on couples from some of your favorite movies and shows: Battlestar Galactica, Game of Thrones, Lord of the Rings, and Star Wars. And the best part? For $45 you will receive a customized template with your invitation, save the date, RSVP card, and Thank You card. That means you can go and print them on the paper you want for the cost you want. You can even choose between four fonts and if you’d rather have a colored or white background.
This seems like an adorable, fun, and cost effective way to get wedding invites, especially if you’re having a themed wedding around any of these fandoms!
Are you adding geeky elements to your wedding invitations?
Last week, I saw a beautiful wedding. I wasn’t invited and the ceremony took 5 minutes, but I could tell just by watching that it was significant, meaningful, and perfect for the couple. The couple had met at a previous Ignite talk after both giving talks themselves.
Take a look then check out my thoughts on what made this such an incredible wedding:
So good, right? I’m in love with this for the following reasons:
1. The couple incorporated something special and personal to them (Ignite).
2. The ceremony was extremely inclusive in multiple ways. Not only did it include all who were at Ignite (or who watched the video), but it showed their awareness of and inclusion of those who are not in committed relationships or those in committed relationships with different sexual orientations.
3. The vows were respectful and meaningful. They are not only vows that the two of them can uphold in their marriage, but ones that all of us could consider and hold in any of our relationships. Plus, they included adorable mentions of their cat complete with fun diagrams!
So, join me in congratulating Teresa and Noah on their union and on giving the best Ignite speech I’ve seen.
May 29th may not officially be “Hug a Geek Day” (yet), but it’s my personal Hug a Geek Day. 2 years ago today, Mr. Geek and I got married. (It was magical, and if you haven’t yet seen the video, you can check it out here.)
On this day, I like to reflect a bit about geeks and relationships. Having a geek as a partner (or a friend, or a mentor, or a colleague) is absolutely amazing, because they do things a little bit differently than other folks.
They understand passion. Whether it’s for a tv show, a moment in history, a theorem, or a person, they understand that you can get so focused on something that nothing else matters. A good partner/friend will let you have your time to focus on this passion, encourage your growth in this field, but will also be able to tactfully remind you that there is more to life than that.
They introduce you to new things. You have your passions and they have theirs. If you take some time to share them with each other, you’re both going to grow.
They’re creative. A lot of the games geeks play (whether they’re tabletop or video) involve a lot of imagination and storytelling. Geeks are able to tell stories effectively and in an entertaining fashion. Think of your DM. Or the writers of your favorite shows. Or the folks who made your favorite game. A geek as a partner means it’s likely you’ll never be bored.
They’re driven. When geeks are passionate about something, they want to grow in it. Learn more about it, become a part of it. And you don’t stand in the way of a geek’s passion. Whether they’re driven to code the perfect site, get hired by the perfect game company, finish the perfect novel, or just make the best mac and cheese ever, you’re likely to win by being surrounded by that hard-working spirit.
Whether your geek embodies one or all of these characteristics, today’s a day to let them know you appreciate them. Give them a hug. Let them know why they’re so amazing. Share your passions with them and ask to learn more about theirs. And share your love for them!
Who’s the amazing geek in your life? And did you hug a geek today?
Proposal Day is coming up in a week (no, seriously, there is an official “Proposal Day” and it falls on March 20th) and this music video will get any geek in the mood for love and popping the question.
Mr. Geek proposed to me during an improv performance (we met in that improv troupe) at Relay for Life (where we first officially started dating) on our 5 year anniversary. It was absolutely perfect for us! Are you engaged/married? What was your proposal like? Still single? What’s your dream proposal? (And if you plan on popping the question soon and don’t know how you should do it, email me! I love to help with that sort of thing!)
Feel a bit like Bond wherever you go with the Titanium Escape Ring. This ring has a hidden saw/shim pick tool inside of it that will allow you to open handcuffs and cut through zip-ties, duct tape, rope, or whatever else you may currently be tied up in.
Think of this ring as a nice way to say “I want to marry you, but will still allow you some freedom.” Or just buy it for yourself if you often find yourself in a bind.
I think something may be in the water… tons of lovely, geeky couples have gotten engaged over the last couple months. I get so excited when I see wedding plan updates on Facebook and Twitter! The most fun part of the wedding planning for me was finding ways to sneak little geeky elements into the wedding that wouldn’t upset or confuse the non-geeks. These invitations would have been a great way to do that. Show off your love of games in a bright, fun invitation that’s approachable to anyone. Perfect for game designers or game lovers, it’s even an easy theme to carry on into your wedding. Have the table centerpieces be different vintage board games, and incorporate some gaming into the wedding. For instance:
Tables have to roll a 20 on a D20 for the wedding couple to kiss
Play rounds of Trivial Pursuit to see which tables are excused to get their buffet dinner first
Have small “wedding bingo” cards instead of place cards. Have a “prize center” where they can redeem their bingo card for a small souvenir of the wedding
Board games not your thing? Still make sure you check out OneLittleM, her invites are all amazing.
Congrats to all of the newly engaged couples out there! If you have any wedding planning or etiquette questions you’d like me to address, contact me!
Kristina and Tom showed that their love lasts over space and time by incorporating Doctor Who elements to their wedding–most importantly, this ridiculously cool TARDIS arch. It’s the perfect amount of geek while still feeling like a more traditional wedding.
Take a look at all the pics from their wedding (including the beautiful TARDIS blue bridesmaid dresses and shoes, and the bowties and sonic screwdrivers for the guys) at WhenGeeksWed.com.