May 29th may not officially be “Hug a Geek Day” (yet), but it’s my personal Hug a Geek Day. 2 years ago today, Mr. Geek and I got married. (It was magical, and if you haven’t yet seen the video, you can check it out here.)
On this day, I like to reflect a bit about geeks and relationships. Having a geek as a partner (or a friend, or a mentor, or a colleague) is absolutely amazing, because they do things a little bit differently than other folks.
They understand passion. Whether it’s for a tv show, a moment in history, a theorem, or a person, they understand that you can get so focused on something that nothing else matters. A good partner/friend will let you have your time to focus on this passion, encourage your growth in this field, but will also be able to tactfully remind you that there is more to life than that.
They introduce you to new things. You have your passions and they have theirs. If you take some time to share them with each other, you’re both going to grow.
They’re creative. A lot of the games geeks play (whether they’re tabletop or video) involve a lot of imagination and storytelling. Geeks are able to tell stories effectively and in an entertaining fashion. Think of your DM. Or the writers of your favorite shows. Or the folks who made your favorite game. A geek as a partner means it’s likely you’ll never be bored.
They’re driven. When geeks are passionate about something, they want to grow in it. Learn more about it, become a part of it. And you don’t stand in the way of a geek’s passion. Whether they’re driven to code the perfect site, get hired by the perfect game company, finish the perfect novel, or just make the best mac and cheese ever, you’re likely to win by being surrounded by that hard-working spirit.
Whether your geek embodies one or all of these characteristics, today’s a day to let them know you appreciate them. Give them a hug. Let them know why they’re so amazing. Share your passions with them and ask to learn more about theirs. And share your love for them!
Who’s the amazing geek in your life? And did you hug a geek today?
Proposal Day is coming up in a week (no, seriously, there is an official “Proposal Day” and it falls on March 20th) and this music video will get any geek in the mood for love and popping the question.
Mr. Geek proposed to me during an improv performance (we met in that improv troupe) at Relay for Life (where we first officially started dating) on our 5 year anniversary. It was absolutely perfect for us! Are you engaged/married? What was your proposal like? Still single? What’s your dream proposal? (And if you plan on popping the question soon and don’t know how you should do it, email me! I love to help with that sort of thing!)
Feel a bit like Bond wherever you go with the Titanium Escape Ring. This ring has a hidden saw/shim pick tool inside of it that will allow you to open handcuffs and cut through zip-ties, duct tape, rope, or whatever else you may currently be tied up in.
Think of this ring as a nice way to say “I want to marry you, but will still allow you some freedom.” Or just buy it for yourself if you often find yourself in a bind.
I think something may be in the water… tons of lovely, geeky couples have gotten engaged over the last couple months. I get so excited when I see wedding plan updates on Facebook and Twitter! The most fun part of the wedding planning for me was finding ways to sneak little geeky elements into the wedding that wouldn’t upset or confuse the non-geeks. These invitations would have been a great way to do that. Show off your love of games in a bright, fun invitation that’s approachable to anyone. Perfect for game designers or game lovers, it’s even an easy theme to carry on into your wedding. Have the table centerpieces be different vintage board games, and incorporate some gaming into the wedding. For instance:
Tables have to roll a 20 on a D20 for the wedding couple to kiss
Play rounds of Trivial Pursuit to see which tables are excused to get their buffet dinner first
Have small “wedding bingo” cards instead of place cards. Have a “prize center” where they can redeem their bingo card for a small souvenir of the wedding
Board games not your thing? Still make sure you check out OneLittleM, her invites are all amazing.
Congrats to all of the newly engaged couples out there! If you have any wedding planning or etiquette questions you’d like me to address, contact me!
Kristina and Tom showed that their love lasts over space and time by incorporating Doctor Who elements to their wedding–most importantly, this ridiculously cool TARDIS arch. It’s the perfect amount of geek while still feeling like a more traditional wedding.
Take a look at all the pics from their wedding (including the beautiful TARDIS blue bridesmaid dresses and shoes, and the bowties and sonic screwdrivers for the guys) at WhenGeeksWed.com.
This image has been floating around Tumblr and nerd blogs. Much like Doctor Who himself, I have no clue how to find it. If you know, leave a link in the comments! Everyone needs a Doctor Who cake topper/table decoration.
As you all know, Etsy finds show up on this blog fairly regularly. They have tons of geeky glassware, art, and home decor that you just can’t get anywhere else. If I knew that they had a registry when I was getting married, I would have been all over that. It’s easy to use and will help you get the unique, personal gifts that you always hoped your guests would give.
As I look back on this, my and Mr. Geek’s one-year wedding anniversary, I realize how much of what I am now is because of him. Before I met him (now almost 8 years ago), I had never played Dungeons and Dragons. I thought Apples to Apples was the pinnacle of board games. I had missed out on tons of awesomely geeky movies and tv shows. Mr. Geek showed me that these activities didn’t have a stigma, wouldn’t go over my head, and weren’t for boys only. I was a geek before I met him, but he turned me into the one I am today. His love and support has made me a better person, introduced me to tons of awesome things, and made my life ridiculously awesome on a regular basis.
My mom told me when I was very young to “marry a nerd.” She knew that they were often more romantic, interesting, and smart than the non-nerdy variety. I learned that marrying, dating, or befriending nerds results in them bringing out some nerd/geek in you. We geeks have such passion for our interests, it’s only natural we share. Whether or not our friends and loved ones take on our same interests doesn’t matter, we show them that it’s ok to be passionate and excited about things you love. It’s ok to try new things. And it’s ok to wait until midnight dressed up with your friends for the newest movie, book, game, or tickets for the things you love.
Geeks understand passion, positivity, and the idea that sharing and learning on a daily basis is what will make this world so great. I hope you all have or find some geeks to share your passions with.
With that, I’ll share my wedding recap posts from last year.